Seeing a problem as it is
Read blogs 1 through 9 first.
I have decided to write slightly a little less each time and I don’t want to bulletin these anymore. The reason is because I want to make these blogs about you. I don’t want this to at all be me saying “Look what Kyle is doing!” I will do that with my comedy. This is about me just enjoying sharing the lessons I have learned because I am enjoying this sense of contribution. It makes me feel great to see you enjoying these and I am not doing it to attract more people……I will also be getting shorter because this is all you.
I will end each blog with a referral to an amazing book, cd or movie, so you can continue.
I mentioned earlier how we can use problems to our advantage. I am in the habit of having every problem be an opportunity for me. It has been incredibly powerful for my life and my stress levels. Everything is an absolute opportunity and if you decide this, the problem completely goes away. We are in a horrific pattern of reacting to a problem with fear and then just feeling fear and closing up. You can use that information from here on out.
Do you know what fear is? It is something that was put in us to get us out of a quick fight or flight situation. It was put into us to save our lives. That is it. Our bodies are not supposed to be just releasing light levels of this fear/stress into our bodies over and over. It has been installed into our bodies to give us information. That information is “We have a situation, and we need to do something about it.” That’s the key. DO something about it. Use it. The minute you truly understand that the problem is amazing and you are going to learn something….It’s over. Your life will be absolutely amazing.
HERE IS THE FIRST STEP….
SEE THE PROBLEM EXACTLY AS IT IS. Not more, not less. The only reason we get more upset about something is we add these things to it that are not true. Then our focus goes to an imaginary world and we get mad. We don’t get mad at the situation exactly. We get mad at the world we made for it.
Have you ever called a person that you were dating, and they didn’t answer? Sometimes you call them hours later and still nothing? Do you know how many people, when given that situation, create situations in their head? I have seen it many times. I even used to experience it. When there is a problem, we tend to exaggerate whatever our prime emotions are. People who worry a lot might think the person is injured. People who are insecure might think the person is cheating. Those thoughts are what actually create the emotions. Then when the person finally calls back, the person could be mad, or scared, or excited, depending on what their prime emotion is.
Look at the situation exactly as it is. That situation is this. THE CALL WENT TO VOICE MAIL. It could be anything. Bad signal, loud room, asleep, cheating, getting you a present, setting up a surprise party, broken phone, not wanting to talk, ANYTHING. This goes with everything. If you are diagnosed with a disease, don’t immediately think “That means I am going to die.” That isn’t the case. Many people decide to focus on the people who have lived through it.
Lance Armstrong was diagnosed with 2 months to live. He didn’t even see that situation as I have 2 months to live. The truth is he was DIAGNOSED with 2 months to live. VERY VERY different. Many past diagnosis have been wrong. Some peoples meaning to that is strength and growth. Lance Armstrong heard that and didn’t think “I am going to die.” He thought “I am going to get a different opinion!” So he went to an eastern doctor, went on a detox and not only cured the cancer, but BECAME AN OLYMPIAN! The meaning was different to him and it created a whole different outcome. He wasn’t picturing the worst situation and feeling that, releasing that stress over and over.
We exaggerate things all the time, to connect with the people we are talking to. We exaggerate how little we slept last night., how bad traffic was, how hungry we are. We say “I am starving!” When we sometimes we just mean hungry.
Did you know that our mind doesn’t know the difference between what we are envisioning and what actually is happening? That’s why when someone tells you a story they act like the story that is happening. If someone tells you of a traumatic experience, they might cry. They cry because they are half living it again and the mind is literally releasing the same chemicals into the body that create that feeling. When they say an amazing accomplishment they once had, they get so excited and animated. That’s why negative people are often less healthy! Their body is constantly fighting the beliefs that these bad things are happening to them right then. So it releases the “fight or flight” chemical in light doses. Making the person literally slightly weaker. It also is lightly hitting our immune system.
So when we say “I AM EXHAUSTED!” – when we are just tired – Our mind subconsciously pictures a time it was way more tired and relives it. So we often get worse when we say the worse situation. Here is an interesting thought, what if you got only 4 hours of sleep last night, but stated that you got 8? HMMMMM Imagine if you said it enough that you believed it? You wouldn’t even be tired!
About 20 years ago, Berkley University did a study where they made two guys sleep. One guy got eight hours, but they changed his alarm clock to make him for sure think that he got 2. They did the opposite with the other guy. They both woke up, looked at the alarm clock (as we all do) and they acted exactly like the info they were given.
The guy who THOUGHT he had 8 hours felt well rested. He believed, with absolute certainty that he was fine. He has conditioned all of his life the knowledge that eight hours of sleep means he feels great! So he was good to go. The other guy who THOUGHT he had 2 hours felt like crap. He literally had blood shot eyes he believed it so much. He walked around telling people how much sleep he got and that made him feel worse.
Then at 3pm that day, they both were told the truth about how much sleep they got. This part blows my mind. The color left one guys face and went right into the others. The guy who now knew that he had eight hours of sleep felt amazing! Think about how much you could change how you feel knowing this.
Part two coming tomorrow. I am starving and exhausted.
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Tags: Kyle Cease, motivational, Tony Robbins
