I was thinking to myself about what is the right way to start this blog, and that’s when I realized that I should just start. That’s almost the point of this blog, just actually doing it. That is what we did when we were kids right? We wanted something, we just asked for it. Ninety percent of the time – we got it.

We just did it. When we had a question, we just asked it. Questions that we never would ask today. The adult version of the questions that we should be asking rarely happen.

We often are too scared to take that real step in life that gets you everything that you really want. Everyone could have anything they want in their lives but there is one thing stopping them – the story they have about themselves in their heads.

Why don’t we ask those questions? You want to be successful in whatever you do? Why don’t you ask the questions of the people in that field? What is stopping you from making your life truly amazing and with a purpose? Did it go away? If so, can it come back?

When I was a kid, I was a working stand up comic. I was making decent money, especially for a kid, but it wasn’t enough to me. My childhood instinct knew that I could make a lot more.

“How can a make way more money?” was the question I asked myself. I didn’t ask, “can I make more?” or worse, “why me?” I asked “how.” I made it a given in my head that I could do it. Tony Robbins says, “If you want better answers, ask better questions.” He couldn’t be more right.

I asked a comedian how I can make more money. “The good money is in corporate parties,” he told me. “How can I make money doing corporate parties?” I asked myself. I didn’t at all think “I am way too young to do corporate parties.” I just asked the first question. It didn’t even occur to me that I couldn’t. I asked my mom, “How could I meet corporate owners?” Her instinctual answer was, “They all get together at the chamber of commerce.”

I knew I wanted to join the chamber of commerce for one reason. I wanted to get the mailing labels of the owners. I did it in 10 minutes, made a phone call joined, got the labels, and made a flier. The flier said, “Having a corporate party? Looking for entertainment? Call Kyle Cease,” with a few other details. I didn’t care about my age, or lack of experience, or other false details that are just beliefs. I just freaking did it.

I got calls from companies all over Seattle; Microsoft, Sears, Nintendo, Toyota, Honda, Lexus, all were included in my new client roster. The money I was making was insane. We are talking thousands and thousands of dollars. The reason was this: I forgot that “I couldn’t do this.”

If I had listened to all the people who told me I was crazy and delusional for going after this, I wouldn’t have done it. There are way too many people who like to come up with reasons why you shouldn’t do something. Those people would rather be right than happy. Also, always pay attention to who you are getting your advice from. Is the person successful themselves?

You will notice if you look for it, that almost all doubters are not successful in their lives. They are often on drugs, in bad relationships, broke, heavy, or work somewhere like Wal-mart or somewhere else they don’t like. So we know what their beliefs get themselves. So if you want to be like that, doubt away. Listen to all those reasons why you can’t and believe it. You will be right where they are.

Just about all successful people agree with what I am saying. They come up with all the reasons you CAN do something. They focus on their accomplishments versus their “failures” and they know that everything is possible and I do too. They are glued to the vision of what they do want, versus what they don’t.

Positivity is a joke in this society and that is why almost everyone is unhappy. It is also why they try to get happy in false ways. Drugs, drinking, and sex all briefly numb the pain and the next morning people regret everything.

When something “bad” happens in your life, you are what decides it is bad. If a cop gives you a ticket and you decide to stress, that is your choice, but it is a selfish choice. How do you know there isn’t a bigger picture here? What if that cop almost got fired and now he can stay on the force? How do you know his kid didn’t just get to eat because of this. Maybe you were just stopped from being in a tremendous car crash. Stressing about situations is your own selfish choice because you aren’t choosing to back up and ask the simple question “How can I use this?” Remember it isn’t the problem that happens, its what you do with it.

You just don’t know the whole story.

I came up with an idea a few months ago called Standup Bootcamp. I thought to myself, “how can I share this knowledge and use it to help aspiring comics learn the true way to be comfortable on the stage, make connections, and perform in front of industry?” I got several of my comic friends together we we worked 4 days, for 12 hours a day with these young comics and many of the students learned how to actually enjoy the stage, versus get nervous. It was a truly magical event. When I put it together, I called comics, agents, club owners, bookers, and managers to all speak at it. For everyone it was a dream come true.

I have noticed a road few comics making fun of it and saying it was “crazy” and “false”. There were two thoughts I had:

1. None of them were there, so since they didn’t experience what we experienced, how do they know?

2. I have never heard of any of those comics. . . that’s right.

Those are the same group of people who love to reject success and hang around others who put down people who are making it. People love to justify why they aren’t making it in comedy by knocking down people who are. Nelson Mandela said, “Not forgiving or having hatred for someone is like drinking a glass of poison and waiting for your enemy to die.”

How about using success as an opportunity for yourself? If at any point those people came to me or my friends and asked us for information, you would get it. Instead, they don’t, and stay in that sad circle. It’s almost the same vibe as high school, at one point you move on, and don’t care anymore.

People have the opportunity every second to stop being cowards and start coming up with ways to make anything happen. This opportunity happens every second. They just have to quit holding on to the past.

Every single successful comedian friend I have thinks that this event is amazing and wants to help out anyway they can. Wait until you hear who I have for the next event.

The students that came to my class from all different levels have all grown tremendously from the questions they asked, the contacts they made, and the powers they forgot they had. One student started in February 2009 and he is now a feature act (he skipped emceeing). One is booked every night now for 2 years. One is up for the Andy Kaufman award with the video that he made at the bootcamp. One is a regular at a new comedy club. 8 of the students have been invited on the road with different headliners. This goes on and on.

If doubtful comics would stop cowardly saying that things didn’t work and instead embraced their own situations, they would be right in front of industry all of the time, and growing like crazy. They would be hitting the road with headliners who are dying to contribute because they are thankful for where they are at. I am mentioning to you with whatever you are doing in your life that you need to go after it, and make it actually happen for yourself. Once you make a decision, its over. You have cut off all other options. Yes, its actually that easy, it just doesn’t seem like it because most people don’t know it. So, they aren’t doing it and instead, all they see is “It’s hard.”

I am looking forward to your comments. Remember to notice where you are at in your life as you speak.

Tags: Anthony Robbins, inspiration, motivational

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